Every bad apple

Every imperfection that you allow to guide you is embedded in your children’s emotional and psychological make up. Overindulgence to Neglect, physical to emotional abuse, psychological to manipulation to guilt tripping to verbally abusing, gas lighting, to over-coddling… it is all a cruel training session for those that can’t decipher the truth or analyze it. They just absorb it into their chemical makeup as examples of how people should be. Then they become it. ************************************************** And you wonder where our dysfunction comes from? I don’t. I know where mine came from and, by the grace of God, I fight it every day. I don’t justify it, I abhor it. I have a great deal of sympathy for those who have suffered at the hands of the broken… and become broken themselves. ***************************************************** “Forgive them, Father, for they know not what they do.” Until you do know. And your eyes are opened, and you see it and it brutalizes someone else and twists their life into something it was never meant to be. And you dread it. ********************************************** And we say stupid things like, “I am good to my kids. I would never beat them.” and yet, you batter their minds. Your psychological manipulation and games are warping how they think. Your poor parenting, neglect, over-indulgence, verbal abuse, guilt tripping and coddling is destroying their sense of worth, their ability to be independent, their mental health. Your poor communication skills, bad relationships, marriage warfare is destroying their ability to rationalize and communicate in healthy ways over their lifetime. ********************************** In my lifetime, besides my own, I have heard and known many people’s stories. I have seen what it does to the children’s ability to be strong, healthy, independent, confident, social humans. And what parents do to them is how they learn to parent and adult. If you look hard enough you can still see a glimmer of who they were meant to be among the scars and wounds and torment of who they have become. **************************** If you see an angry person. If you see an abuser. If you see a murderer. If you see a rapist. If you see a psycho president destroying a country… If you see a drug addict or alcoholic or prostitute… you must have the sense to know that they have a story that would horrify you. They were born innocent like babies are. They were molded into what they became by their environment, parenting or lack of, life situations and bad choices. Then look in the mirror. I be you have your horror stories too or you are one. *************************************************** Pray for them. I know it is hard, especially when their bad choices affect someone that you love, but just pray for them. ****************************